Recently, I encountered an old friend who unsettled me deeply – so much so that I feel compelled to write about it. This ‘friend’ reveled something to me that was better left unsaid because it was completely ridiculous and far fetched. However, it wasn’t this that unsettled me. it was the approach – it was very negative and designed to hurt me and challenge my self esteem. This caused me instant rage. When someone delivers ‘news’ about incidents that are over 20 years old, generally, they are for closure – not to open a new wound and try to swoop in and be the hero. See – that does not work, so, when it was reveled to me that an old flame may have done some kissing and telling – I found it funny – but it was meant to cut and the messenger wanted to be able to comfort me. WTF? I would not have thought it possible that someone would not assume that we all grow and change and that the past is well….past.
Clearly, this ‘old friend’ is not a friend and the only thing that hurt me was that I have to take it because the situation would have ruined something special for someone else. I guess that’s why I am passive aggressively expunging it here. I’m hoping this cures me…..